"Our brother Abner could be quite shy, but he had his own quiet way of showing affection. He didn't say much, but he would do small things for you to show his care.
"We wanted something simple for his funeral. It had to be a traditional church service.
"A few days before the funeral, we came into Poppy’s to dress Abner. Two members of Poppy’s team were there to help us. We did his hair and put on a little make up too.
"When Abner wasn't well and we were looking after him, he would tell us not to fuss over him. But now we felt we could fuss as much as we wanted!
"The room where we dressed him was very pleasant — the windows brightened him as he lay there. Dressing him was an important closure for us.
"Abner’s ex-wife, son, daughter and grandchildren all travelled from the United States for the funeral, as well as his sister, nieces and nephews from Canada. It was very important for the family to say a last goodbye to him.
"It was a beautiful reunion at his funeral, seeing three generations of the our family gathered from far and wide."
Monica and Rowena, Abner’s sisters