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Symbolic actions are powerful and beautiful ways to say goodbye someone you love. When everybody shares an action or activity at the same time, it can create a sense of togetherness and unity.
While there are some actions — like balloon, paper lantern or even butterfly releases — which can cause environmental damage, there are many more simple, meaningful and eco-friendly ideas to consider. We run through seven of our favourites.
Why not have a collective moment after the service where you play some music, say some last words and blow bubbles? It can be beautiful to watch as the bubbles all fly away.
Cut down on plastic by avoiding individual bottles of bubble mix. Instead, a bubble machine or hand-held automatic bubble wand can create a fantastic effect. You could hire one or borrow one. It’s worth asking around — families with children or bubble enthusiasts may already have one!
A coffin topped with potted plants can look just as gorgeous, and much more natural, as one decorated with cut flowers. Crocuses, snowdrops and pansies are popular choices, as well as sweet-smelling herbs like lavender.
Encourage family and friends to take home a pot to plant in their own garden or window box. Whenever it flowers, you can remember each other and the person who has died.
Give out pens and paper to everyone. Allow time during or after the ceremony for those who would like to express themselves by writing down a thought, memory or wish. Perhaps play some music during this time to help people to quietly reflect on what they want to say.
These notes can be attached to, or left on top of the coffin, at a cremation. At a burial, this is typically done once the coffin has been lowered into the grave.
Giving wildflower seeds for people to plant at home in memory of the person who has died symbolises life and growth, as well as having a positive benefit on the environment.
Not only are the flowers beautiful, but they are also brilliant for bees, bugs and butterflies!
A toast is a traditional way to honour someone. And who doesn’t like to share a drink?
One family we supported even created personalised glass shot glasses as a keepsake, serving a small amount of their person’s favourite tipple, so that everyone could raise a toast after the funeral service.
Don’t forget a non-alcoholic option for the drivers, non-drinkers and children!
A communal sing-along can create a strong sense of togetherness and shared emotion. Just think about churches and football stadiums!
There might be an obvious choice — a favourite song or hymn of the person who has died, or a karaoke classic — or you might want to ask friends, family and your celebrant for ideas. The song you choose doesn’t have to be religious, or particularly serious — as long as it isn’t too hard for people to sing!
Find more ideas for using music at a funeral here.
You can give out coloured ribbons for people to wear as they arrive at the service. This is a simple but effective way of helping everyone to feel connected to each other during the ceremony.
The ribbon is also something that each person can take away and keep as a token of remembrance.
We know that symbolic actions can be extremely powerful and provide lasting, shared memories. There are so many different, creative and meaningful ways to include these in a funeral service, without damaging the natural world.
We’d love to talk through any of these ideas, or any other ideas you have yourself, and we can help you with all the practical arrangements.
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Bubbles photo credit: Jamie Street, Unsplash